My daughter is 11 and I have asked her if her mother has been given her the girl talk.?

She has been complaining her stomach is hurting her. I will be bringing her to the doctor tomorrow. I am a single dad with custody of the kids. Their mother only gets them every other weekend. I asked my daughter this and she says her mother has not had the talk with her. Should I have the talk with her? I worry about having the talk with her because if she starts talking with her friends or her mother about it how would it seem if I did talk to her about it to others? I worry about my kids. My mother thinks I should be the one to talk to her about puberty. I asked my mother to talk to her. Can I have some ideas on how to talk to my girl. I know with my son it would be a lot easier, but I have a while for that talk though. I can wait. Thanks.My daughter is 11 and I have asked her if her mother has been given her the girl talk.?
Maybe if you are taking her to the doctor tomorrow you could have a short talk with her on the way there or some time before. Just let her know that there are changes that are going to take place then you could let the doctor know that you have mentioned these things to her. Tell the doctor why you feel uncormfortable. In this day and age I understand why you would and I think a lot of other single parents would too. Ask the doctor to ask her if she has any questions. It would probably be more comfortable for her if you weren't in the room. I can't imagine discussing that with my father. Chances are she knows more than you think from talking to her friends and maybe her friends older sisters. Adolescent girls are just as creepy as adolescent boys. It would be a good idea to keep some sanitary pads on hand, at home, in the bathroom for when the time comes. Let her know that they are there but don't make a big deal about them. Make sure you tell her not to flush them down the toilet! Ask her mother to talk to her about this if you can.My daughter is 11 and I have asked her if her mother has been given her the girl talk.?
Get her a book on it--there's a good chance that she already knows from her friends or school. I'm guessing she's in 5th grade--they usually have that discussion in 5th grade. They split the boys and girls and the teachers have the conversation with the kids. Or, call your pediatrician and see if it's something that she can discuss with your daughter if you're that uncomfortable with it. Or, I'd sit both kids down at once and tell them both--the longer you wait, the more awkward it will be for all of you. You could also call your ex and see if she will talk to her about it. Put your differences aside and ask her how she would like you to approach it. Just say that you'll talk to her if she doesn't want to, but that you don't want to offend her by taking away a rite of passage for her. She might respond to this by talking to your daughter.
You're her Dad and she's in your custody.........I agree with your Mom and you should have that talk with your daughter........She's of age where's she's feeling a lot of changes going on within herself and those changes probably could use a parental explaination..........You sound like a great Dad and want things right for your daughter...........Don't delay anymore........Just sit down with her and tell her it's time for a serious father-daughter chat..........Give her real explainations of everything, facts not supositions and let her know you're having this talk with her because you love her and then ask her if she has questions...........That might be a big help in explaining things to her.............CAT





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Uh... face it your ex won't do it so you have to be mature and do it for her. You may not enjoy it but someone HAS to before she finds out the hard way.





Good Luck!
Hey, you are both parents here. SOMEBODY, please talk with her. Really, both of you should. Her mother obviously is the ideal, because she can answer more questions about the period and a womans changing body obviously, But, there is nothing wrong with you bringing up some kind of a conversation. She probably already knows, i was younger than your daughter when i started my period, i already knew what was going on, but she needs some insight here, some comfort that all is normal, and you are happy to see her grow into a young woman. Maybe, just bring up that you notice she is changing, and see what she has to say, it will probably be alot more than you expect.
I think it's great you are the primary caretaker for these kids, and as such, I think you should have the talk. But definitely, give her a book, and the website listed above, and tell her you are there for questions, and keep it brief. You're her father; how could anyone think it inappropriate for you to keep her informed and protected?
You need to discuss it with the child's mother. There are many books about puberty that are aimed at her age level. Ask the mother if you can get her some books and discuss them with your daughter.
well i would have an aunt or grandma there when you do it so that way they can answer all girlie questions and then just sit down and tell her about how her body is changing how she could get pregnant if she does have sex now etc..


check on americangirl.com they have great books about goin threw puberty and explains alot maybe order one of those i think its call my body or something like that


good luck you seem like a great dad!
Dad talking to his daughter about that stuff for the first time can be awkward. and it probaly is akward for her when u ask her if ur ex has had the talk with her cause she knows ita girl thing and doesnt want to talk to u about it. and in 5th grade u start sex ed where they talk about hte stuff and teach the kids. but i also think it wouldnt be a bad idea if ur mom talk to her especially if they are close.shes only 11 and she may be a little confused if school or nobody has talked about it to her. but in the long run she will thank u or her grandma or mom for doing it before anything happens. ill just say she wouldnt hate u for u talking to her about it. she just might not talk that much. but i say have ur mom do it. shes a girl, she knows what she talking about and how to do it REALLY well.lol.





wish u the best of luck!
Wow... I'm eleven and learned what puberty is on my own at 9 XP. It really should be done by a mother. You would just be too akward.
well...i think its fine if fathers do, especially if the mom wont. call her mom up and ask her to talk to her about it. she say ur worried and dont know what to do when she starts her period, or whatever. i hope the relationship between u and ur daughter is close, otherwise, she might get mad at u if u try to talk to her about it. how did she seem when u asked her if her mom had talked to her? did she give u a weird look? did she mumble something? did she run out of the room after saying no? did she seem uncomfortable? i think if she acted fine when u asked her that, then that would of been a great time to start telling her. plz do it b4 its too late! u can buy her books, or show her websites, and ask her if she understands, dont assume she does just bcuz its right in front of her. u can also get another female relative to talk to her.and i doubt theyll think ur weird...just loving and concerned and shell understand when shes older if she doesnt now.
My dad gave me the talk, and it was actually a lot less ackward for me because I saw my dad more, and I had more trust in him at the time. Just look at some information on websites, don't try to scare her about pregnancy and everything, and just try not to act nervous. Good luck!
well you are her father so she would probably want to listen what you had to day about it. i am in a similar situation. i live with my dad and he was in complete custody. he is actually the one who told me about puberty and yeah it was awkward but hearing it come from someone that was important to me meant the world. so just be open and let your daughter know she can ask about anything (= good luck
You and grandma should sit down with her. You should do the intro, ';We both wanted you to know that we are both here for you and any questions you may have. But since this is more of a feminine territory, I will leave the bulk of the explanation to grandma. '; Then leave the room, but stay in the house.


That way she knows that you left the room to make HER more comfortable, not yourself. And she can come to you if she has questions.


A period is a tough thing for an 11 year old girl, but once it's explained once, it's not that big of a deal. Also, you should discuss with your mom what kinds of ';products'; you should buy your daughter when you do the grocery shopping. She will not want to ask you for more, nor will she want to buy them herself for quite a while. So, buy a couple of different things, and just restock once a month.


Good luck.
Well, if you are on decent terms w/ her mother, then I think you should speak w/ her about your concerns and that you think it may be time for ';the talk.'; If not, there's no reason your daughter can't ask her mother herself. You could ask your daughter if she has any questions and whether she's more comfortable talking to you or her mom. She's probably picked up plenty from school and TV as it is and at least has an idea of sex and pueberty. But I don't think there's any reason that you, as her dad, shouldn't be the one to have that talk with her. Get a book or two (The Care and Keeping of You is a good one) and go over it together. As the custodial parent, you really need to be able to have an open relationship on this subject. Assuming you do the bulk of the shopping for the household, she needs to be able to ask you to pick up pads/tampons and go bra shopping w/ as little embarassment as possible.
LooK as a daughter of the age 13 myself im trying to help you .... i am warning you do not i repeat do not talk to her abou that stuff it is completly awkward and weird and uncomfortable, my dad did it to me and now im scarred for life just ask your mother to or even if she has a smart sensible older sister just watever you do dont talk to her about that kind of sttuff
i would just explain to her that she will becoming a young lady soon ! and every young ladies have a period ! and explain to her what she has to have to wear when she comes to that point and i would tell her that she needs to be extra careful about boys wonting to have sex with her she could get preg. and catch deseases from having sex i think youre mom should be having this talk with her or her mother its hard to explain this and she would prob. feel more comfortable if the mother talked to her about puberty i wish you good luck and bravo on keeping youre children and raising them right not many men would do that
have your mother talk to her. Then from there you can add up your part. Good luck
YOU ARE HER PARENT!


Act like it!





Do what you must do. This about her not about your embarrassment.





AFTER you talk to her buy her a book that explains in more detail. I also like the idea of you finding her a female puberty mentor.
u can do it but its better if a female does it....u might make mistakes
get like her grandmother 2 do it or her mom.


u can do it, i guess, but it'll b verrrryy awkward.\





nd her stomach's hurting prolly cuz of da whole period situation.


i suggest u 2 get a female 2 do it,its muchh bettr 4 her AND u.





best of luck.
I'm a daughter in almost the same situation, I'm a few years older then your daughter. Though it may be awkward, would you rather her be able to talk to you about this stuff in the future and come to you when she needs you, or her not knowing anything and end up pregnant or with an STD? The earlier and more comfortable you both get about talking about this stuff together the better off you are.
it may seem awkward to you, but I think it's great that both parents be involved in these kinds of discussions. If she is about to have her first period though, there is little you can do to show her how to handle it... have you talked to her mother about this? I know that often there are hard feelings between ex's, but sometimes we have to set aside our own feelings and unite for the benefit of the child/ren involved. If this is not a possibility, how about a trusted aunt, grandmother or friend? If those otions are not available, maybe a Planned Parenthood organization would have a nurse available to help her... they are very good at talking to embarrassed kids about these things. Good luck dad! :)
My dad talked to me about it he was kinda odd about it but he didnt he was nervous. he didnt stay on it long. he still talks to me about it.
I think you should tell your ex-wife to talk to her cause since she hardly sees her mom it gives them time to bond and talk about things,and at the same time and if you tell her it would be kinda werid.It's true mothers know best.
Go ahead. A lot of girls start developing at that age. It would be good to tell her and have her ask questions =)
I guess it depends on the kind of relationship you have with your daughter. If you usually talk with her about her day, her stuff, her friends, boys, school, etc., she might be comfortable enough to talk about puberty issues with you. If you think she'd feel shy and embarassed going over that with you, then it's best not to force her to. I know it can make some parents feel awkward, but this is more about making her comfortable with the subject, rather than you. Good luck! :)
give her the website teenhealth.org it will answer all her questions.... seriously all her questions.
My husband could not bring himself to have the talk with our son, so I bought him a book and then he asked me a couple of questions without looking me in the eye, and I answered them. Now he is 15 and takes his questions to Dad, and if Dad can't answer we will both tease him!





Find a good book at the library or ask her school nurse, and then tell your daughter you are there for questions. (Read the book yourself as well).





Don't worry about what she says to her friends, they all know she lives with you. The important thing is that some facts get through!





Good luck and God bless-it is tough to be a single parent!