How can a single father of 11 and 13 year old girls talk to them about sex?

They already know more than they should and we have talked a little about it but not in full detail. How do I approach it with out it sounding too dirty or too enjoying? Please do not throw in religion or sin for this is not the way!How can a single father of 11 and 13 year old girls talk to them about sex?
First of all your a teacher of sex, so start with the basic, even if they know it, and ask them questions, and then dont talk about sex positons, thats private, talk about safety and self repect, see some parents go too far in talking about sex, all you need to do as a parent is educate not tell sex stories, so take them to doc let them see birth control methods, then take them to school or hospitals and see that young kids can have babies too and they dont want to be that way, and show them stds, the got some good pics on std and drugs on google. It is great that they are talking to a male, tell them how males really think, and give them both sides the good guy and bad guy, they have to know how to spot him when seen. and pray on your family success.How can a single father of 11 and 13 year old girls talk to them about sex?
Utilize some websites to help yourself out.


http://www.dreamababy.com/sex-ed-how.htm





Here's 2 good ones for starters...


You will find much good advice %26amp; resources that are not too complicated %26amp; mushy.
do u have a femaily sibling like a mom or ur sister to help u or if ur on ur own .. just take them for ice cream and a walk in the park and just be honest and open with them they will respect u and ur knowledge
I am sure you can find a book at the library that can help..... or maybe a teen magazine ?? Google it maybe ?? I know it is hard on ya Dad.... but kudos to you for taking this serious...... God bless
I DONT KNOW I DONT HAVE KIDS SORRY
I recommend talking about the feelings attached with it..that it's important that it be someone special, that you want your girls to respect themselves kinda thing.





Let them know that kissing and hugging can be very nice and feel good, but that other things can just make life so complicated.





No one is going to respect you if you don't respect yourself first.


..as far as technical stuff....and safety... no advice there, sorry.
I would try reading some articles on the net. This is a delicate area that needs professional advice... because:





Get too aggressive, and they wont talk to you about their relationships or sex ever





Be too passive on the ';just be safe note'; and they will think its okay to sleep with guys so long as they are using a condom








Good luck.
I really think a woman should do that. Where is their mother? If she is not in their life, then what female relative are they the closest with? Do they have Aunts, Grandmothers, anyone woman over 21 who they trust? I just know I would have felt weird if my Dad had talked to me about it.
well, they are thirteen, and they will probably figure it out through friends, or older teenagers.. that have heard or done it themselves...


im 18... and by the time my mom had tried to talk to me about sex, i already knew more things than she thought...


probably even more than her... because things have changed... there are new generations... new things like toys, and stuff... gross i know... but i am sure your daughters have already figured out pretty much everything they should know from friends...


but to make sure...


you should just tell them everything you know about the whole std, and hiv thing... and that if they ever need anything like doctor appointments, or anything, that all they have to do is ask... and that you wont embarass them...


it might even be better if you have an aunt, or a family friend that is female talk to them...





also, i have two websites that might help you...





http://www.drdrew.com/





http://www.teenhealthfx.com/index.php
Having daughters myself, I understand what you're going through. I am a divorced dad with 2 girls: 13 and 9. My ex and I decided that it would be better for her to give them the talk. If that's an option, you might think of going that route.





If not, there are books that can help you. I'm not sure of titles, but I have seen them at the local Barnes and Noble about talking with teen daughters about sex.





I'm sorry that's all I can give but I hope it helps. Good Luck
Sit them down and explain to them that you know they know about sex, but you want to tell them a few things about it, aka- wait until you're with ';the right one'; or- you're married. Tell them not to be afraid to ask you questions, and if they have any to just pull you aside somewhere private, nobody has to know you asked. When you talk, talk in your serious dad voice- every dad has one, especially mine. But if you can, have a female outlet for them, most girls feel more comfortable asking and hearing from a women
you should definatly try to come across as a concerned father in this situation ...start it off by saying ';can i talk to you both about something that is worrying me , my worry is that you will get pregnant from unprotected sex...blah blah blah...'; and talk about the risks and stuff like that.
That is a really hard question because I know growing up, I never wanted to talk to my dad about sex or anything like that. Honestly I would wait tell they're a little older. Or, if they're starting to ask questions, answer them with the best of your knowledge. If you don't want to answer their questions and just tell them to ask someone else then you have to face the consiquence of them not ever coming to you for anything. So, if they're asking then answer but if you're just worried about them then tell them that they can talk to you about anything, even if it's something embarrasing.
lol well this is 2007.. most people 11-13 know more then they should these days.. but just be normal with them, and say you need to talk to them about this because they are getting older and should know what to do in whatever situation.. be serious with them. they'll most likely listen. it is weird talking to parents about sex but you have to do it. oh and you are really handsom by the way.





goodluck with everything!
Check out your local library. They have many books and dvds on the subject, and they come in different age appropriate versions.
Where's the mama? If she's still in the picture it's best to let her talk to the girls about it...I have girls, if I had boys I would pawn it off on the daddy to have the talk, but my 13 year old %26amp; I have had several talks....mainly....don't do it till you are 30! lol


Actually, I have asked her to wait until she is at least 17 or 18. Just keep it PG....they really don't need extreme details till closer to 15. Then you would still want to keep it PG-13. Good Luck!!
Are there any books you can get to help you w/the situation? I'm sure there are. Do you have any female relatives who also could be w/you when you have your discussion. This would help greatly as she could ans. any questions they may have from experience that you wouldn't be able to do. I certainly wish you the best %26amp; feel some how you'll be able to work things out. Hopefully you can find a relative to assist you %26amp; help make it easier.
listen it's hard I know I have girls to but if you don't want them to learn the wrong way i.e ending up pregnant... then you need to buck up before they **** up catch what I'm saying... and forget trying to sound any sort of way just as long as you know your doing what you have to do cause if you don't some young boy or old man is going to teach them for you and that's not what you want....
be honest, remember honesty is the best policy, obviously you should soft peddle it a little bit because they are young. If you be honest and speak from a health perspective instead of an overly judgmental,over protective parent than you will earn the girls respect and they will listen. hopefully you will raise them ';right';, (whatever that means). teach them about respecting their bodies and how an unwanted pregnancy, and std's will hurt them(as they get older). Also teach them as a man your prospective about how men treat woman, and how they, by building a close relationship to their father will learn how to pick a great husband who will take care of them and treat them right. Good luck to you and your girls.
Why do you feel you need to talk to them about sex? They are too young. It's not really necessary. If you feel they know more then they should you need to talk to them about the importance of protecting themselves while having sex. Tell them that the least thing they have to worry about is teenage pregnancy. There's AIDS, HERPES, etc... taht could get you into way more trouble then pregnancy. Also, you should also consider getting them the HP vaccine. Good Luck
That's a tough one.


How about a school counselor, female friend (yours). Female relative?


I would suggest perhaps a friend or relative take them to a park, zoo, museum, etc. stop in for an ice cream and soda and make a day outing and the conversation should just be casual. Not a lecture or speech type of thing.


Maybe start the conversation with ';Do you and your friends talk about sex a lot in school? I remember when I was your age and sometimes that's all we'd talk about. And how cool some boy was. ';


Just keep it casual so they will accept the conversation like talking with a friend and not a lecture.
Your daughters probably already know a lot about the biology of sex. You can visit the library and ask for help selecting a couple of books on the subject.





Talking to them about relationships is more important. You are the role model for their selection of a husband.





One of the first things you can discuss is at what age you expect to give permission for them to start dating.





Little girls love to fantasize about these things, so be prepared to laugh a lot!





P.S. The only thing my father ever told me about sex was, ';If you get pregnant, you're going to the House of The Good Shepherd.';
Ask them to let you know if they have any questions. They will be learning about things at school too, so it could be an opportunity for you to ask them what they're learning and just get them talking to you about it. Put your own spin on it, such as talking about love and what it means to you, and how important it is before being intimate.
i'm sure they already have a good idea about the mechanics of sex (lol), alot of teenagers do nowadays from school. what you might want to emphasize to them is the OUTCOME when they engage in sexual activity like the negative effects of getting pregnant at an early age, the responsibility that comes with getting pregnant and having a child, will they be ready for it-emotionally and financially. will the guy be there for her/them to support herthem-again, emotionally and finacially. also, the possibility of catching any disease if they're not sure about the guy, etc., etc. and another important thing, just be honest about what you'll tell them and give them honest answers whatever questions they may have. i talk to my teenage son about sex and i just tell him things truthfully. although, i will not get on his even though, i caught him with some , you know, pictures of sexy women under his bed (lol again). i want to give him that privacy, 莽ause honestly, both boys and girls get to this stage. so, good luck to you. you seem like a really good father to your daughters.
Talk to your daughters honestly and dont be embarassed about it. WHY SHOULD YOU BE? They are your children and it does not matter what gender they are; YOU CREATED THEM AND THEY ARE A PART OF YOU-- Start from the very begining on how a man and a woman get together to create a child, then speak on how the child develops in the womans body until the baby is ready to be born. YOU CAN GO TO THE LIBRARY AND GET SOME VERY INFORMATIVE BOOKS ON THE SUBJECT THAT HAVE PICTURES AND ILLUSTRATIONS IN THEM. Or go to a book store like BARNES %26amp; NOBLE. Talk to them about the responsibility of waiting until they are a responsible age to engage in safe sex and also tell them the consequences of not being responsible and catching everything from STD'S to unwanted pregnancies, getting raped and getting pubic lice!
I applaud you for tackling this yourself instead of handing it off to the mother. My first thought (as someone else had mentioned) was to have a trusted female family member with you to do it as a team. It would make it less strange - this conversation will never be easy - and if they clam up with you, the female counter-part can take over the conversation to get them to relax. One suggestion, start to tell them about it, and watch their signals - they will make it known when they have heard enough. You may need to do it in steps. My mom and my aunt teamed up with me - looking back, it was hilarious. It started in the car on the way to piano lessons:) Maybe start out by talking about their monthly cycle. Maybe come back at another time and talk about how it fits into what will be happening to their bodies. I once dated a man with 2 teenage daughters and one situation came up that was really strange for them, they were afraid to ask him to pick up feminine supplies for them when he shopped. I told them that when they were about 2/3 out, rip the top off the box so he could see what they wanted and put it with his shopping list - no questions asked. I filled him in that he should get the things promptly without discussion %26amp; where to place them in the bathroom - it was really sensitive %26amp; worked well. Good luck!
Hi..


Talking to you daughters about sex can be very awkward..However I found an excellent article for you..Go to: About.com.Fatherhood..I've searched, and so far this is the best..





You will be fine..And so will your daughters..


Enjoy the rest of the summer with your family..Take care..Juanna