Friday, November 19, 2010

How do i overcome my shyness an just talk to girls?

i am friends with a couple of girls but they say i am shy around them....how do i over come it???



How do i overcome my shyness an just talk to girls?
why do u feel shy to talk wid girls. may be u r thinking about them as more than a friend. just tel urself that i just want to be friend wid them and not more than that. it wil give u confidence to talk wid them. try to be free among them and try to spend more time with them so that u wil get habituated to talking wid girls without any awkwardness.How do i overcome my shyness an just talk to girls?
Just remember they are only human at the end of the day so there is no need to feel shy around them.

Some girls like guys that are a little shy so i wouldnt worry too much
Practice...



You just have to start doing it, even if you flub it up, you gain experience and will be more confident the next time around. Just pretend it's groundhog day or 50 first dates and go for it, and again, and again, and again.
A lot of people are shy (boys and girls), it's nothing to be worried about. As you get older the shyness becomes less of a problem. Shyness is usually brought on by someone who has very low self esteem and they are afraid of being hurt or made fun of by someone if they say or do the wrong thing. You have to remember that self esteem plays a major role in your self image and therefore in the way in which you relate to people (or in this case girls). What makes you nervous around girls? Are you self conscious about your looks? Or just worried you'll say the wrong thing and become embarrassed about it? Start by trying to start up conversations with girls who seem just as shy and quiet as you are. Don't go for the popular pretty ones. The best way to start up a conversation is to compliment someone, especially if it is a girl. Tell her you like her dress or the way her hair looks or the pretty smile she has. Compliments ALWAYS make the other person feel better about themselves and then they tend to be less defensive and more open to what you are saying (especially if they are shy themselves). They also love it when you notice their special skills say at photography, writing, dancing, drawing, art, and be sure to compliment them on this too as well as let them know how smart you think they are. You'll have to learn to focus less on yourself even if it means pretending to be someone else whom you admire for their ability to talk casually and without fear to others. (But only do this as an experiment to see how it feels to talk to someone freely and easily without fear of being made fun of). Have you noticed how easy it is to talk to someone online through IM's? That's because they can't see you and you can say basically anything you want to say even if it's not the truth. (I don't advise lying though to the girls, it's just not right). Join clubs at school that get you involved in groups with other peers where you have no choice but to communicate with them often. Take up pubic speaking courses. And remember this is ONLY temporary. Once you get older, you'll find it easier to talk with girls. Best of luck!
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